Surviving "Single" Parenting and a Target Giveaway!

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Last weekend Daniel left for his summer training for the National Guard. Originally when he signed his contract with the guard after active duty I was told that he would be gone one weekend a month, and two weeks out of the summer. But alas, one weekend a month turned into one long weekend a month (aka usually Thursday-Sunday) and two weeks in the summer turned into four.

So here we are with two and a half weeks left of his training and I've already learned a few things along the way about how to survive "single" parenting.

During our first week alone my parents had to leave for a business trip and my mom is usually the one to watch Kenz when I'm at work in the afternoons. I had a babysitter lined up, which of course fell through because why not? Have you ever heard of Murphy's Law?

Anyway, I searched high and low for a sitter, ended up having to take two days off of work and finally found someone to watch her for one afternoon.

TIP #1: Always have a back up for your back up. I was so grateful to find someone to watch her for at least one of the days during that week but when I think about it I should have been better prepared. What if my normal sitter (aka my mom) gets sick last minute? Start searching early for people you would trust enough to stay with your baby, even if you don't necessarily plan to use a sitter right away.

This totally goes along with the first tip, but creating a community has been a huge help for me while I've been alone so far. I know that even on the days I have work, I can bring Kenzie in for a visit and she will be surrounded by a billion people who want to hold her and spend time with her. These are the same people that I know I could call for any reason to come help me if I needed anything at all. If you don't have family close, and work isn't the most kid-friendly of places, start looking for local moms groups and start building that community.

TIP #2: Stock up on the necessities ahead of time. One big thing that Daniel did that helped me so much before he left was that he went out and got me all of the essential things I would definitely need in a month but didn't necessarily think about. He bought trash bags, baby formula, coffee, dish soap, and of course all of my favorite snacks. When I needed something last minute it helped knowing that I probably already had it at home because we planned ahead as much as we could.

TIP #3: Prioritize. Start learning the difference between the things you need to do and the things you want to do. For example, I need to make sure that our bills get paid at the beginning of the month. I want to have all of our laundry cleaned, folded, and put away at all times. Sometimes somethings got to give and it helps to know what is really necessary and what you may need to put to the side for a bit. I'm always willing to push the laundry to another day for the greater good ;)

TIP #4: Don't be afraid to ask for some time to yourself. Because I spend half my day at work, I generally want to spend the other half with my kid. But when I've had a long day and she's overly tired and we've both just had enough of it all sometimes it's completely necessary and ok to ask for just a couple minutes of time to yourself. You don't want to feel grumpy, trying to soothe a grumpy baby, I'm telling you it just isn't a good situation for anyone. Just take those few minutes to reset and you'll feel 1000 times better.

TIP #5: Document! Make every moment a big deal. One of the hardest parts about having your significant other away when you have a little one is knowing how much they're missing out on. I try to make everything that Kenzie does a big deal that way she continues to do it and I can take tons of pictures that I'll be able to show Daniel once he finally gets home. I hate the thought of him missing out on anything at all, and especially in a training like the one he's in where we have no means of communicating, it is more important then ever for me to write down special moments or take a ton of pictures of things while they're happening so I can recall them and fill him in on every detail later.

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2 comments:

  1. Oh man. I'm sorry to hear that the expectations of the guard aren't quite what's happening in reality. What a bummer. My husband is playing with the idea of the guard when we get out of the army, but we're really on the fence. Also... your baby is SO PRECIOUS. Holy moly. I saw her picture in my bloglovin feed and to click. She is so beautiful!

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  2. I've heard a few people have that frustration with the guard. I hope it isn't always like that. I swear your little girl gets cuter and cuter all the time!

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