Things You Hear When You're Young (Looking) and Pregnant

Monday, February 27, 2017

No matter what age you are when and if you decide to get pregnant, it seems like there's never a shortage of advice from anyone and everyone who may have had a child, thought about having a child, or saw a child do something somewhere once.

Just when I think I've heard it all in these last seven and a half months, someone surprises me by saying something about my pregnancy or life thereafter that I couldn't ever fathom saying to another human being.

I try to take everything with a grain of salt, as I'm aware that most of the advice comes from a place of sincerity (although sometimes maybe more from a place of having no social filter). Occasionally, when I listen closely I even hear something helpful and I hold onto those little pieces for dear life and stash them away somewhere so I can pull them out again later when the time comes. 

Unfortunately for me, the fact that I look like a pregnant teenager has brought with it a whole slew of dirty looks, questions, and judgments that for me there's really been no way around. I can't magically transform myself to look like the almost twenty-five year old person I'll soon be. Most days, I don't have the desire (or energy) to wear any makeup which only further's any suspicions that I'm actually only 14 years old and having a baby. 

There are a few things I've heard plenty of times already, and I thought I'd share them here with you. If only to make you think twice before saying the same things to any other pregnant people...although specifically the ones who look like babies themselves. 

Everyone wants to know if I'm sure I'm ready for this. As if somehow, at seven and a half months pregnant I could just decide that I don't want to do it anymore and everything would just go back to the way that it was. What most of these people don't know is that we actively made the choice to bring a child into this world, so I think were as ready as any other first time parents. 

Everyone has an opinion on if I should have waited longer before trying to have a child, or if now is the right time. This advice started before I ever got pregnant. I feel like everyone wanted to know when and if we were going to be having kids. But now, this has gotten even weirder. A guy just the other day told me how great it was that I was having a child so young because now, more than ever, my body has everything it can give to a baby and according to him, it will give everything. But, he did reassure me that because of this, my first child will have the highest IQ of any of my other possible future children, and I should really put the extra effort into her when she gets here...forget about the rest. Now I'm no scientist...but I don't think that's the way that it works. I did happily text my younger sibling to tell her why I'm so much smarter than she is, though ;) 

Everyone wants to know if I did this or that before getting pregnant. Usually this has something to do with school. Someone actually asked if I was going to finish high school first. I think this totally goes with the looking young problem. People naturally assume that since I look young, then I must have given up on other important things in my life prior to getting pregnant, as if there were anything  wrong with wanting to be a mom over anything else. I'm usually quick to flash my wedding ring at them, and I've even thought about framing my college diploma to put on my desk at work. Not that it's any of their business, but come on people. 

I hear a lot about how my days of "fun" are over, and that I should get used to worrying all the time instead. These types of comments usually come from men. Women are more likely to tell me how wonderful it will be and how rewarding being a parent is, while men want to tell me that they hope I had fun while I had the chance because those days are now over. Clearly our definitions of fun differ, but it is what it is. 

Lots of people have an opinion on what will happen to my body once the baby has arrived. These comments kill me. I would never make any comments to another woman about the shape of her body, baby or no baby. But for some reason everyone, and I mean everyone (I'm talking to you, men of the world) wants to tell me their opinion on how my body will be after the baby. This is the only time that looking young while pregnant seems to be benefiting me because most people feel the need to tell me that my body will probably go back to the way that it was pre-baby. At this point, who knows what will happen. 

As fun as all these comments have been, I can only imagine it will get worse once the baby arrives. I've already thought about what will happen once I take her out with my parents (who are also very young looking) and people naturally assume that she's their baby instead of my own. Aren't other people's opinions fun? 

Did you have any of these problems? What are some of the weirdest comments you've gotten while pregnant? 

Grand Adventure

Monday, February 20, 2017

I'm a planner at heart. I love the idea of grand adventures because I enjoy the planning as much as the adventure itself. There's not much I like better then creating the perfect Pinterest board, mapping out the things I absolutely must do, and buying outfits for each such occasion. 

I dream of grand adventures in far away places and everything that comes along with them. 

However, lately my Pinterest boards have taken on a whole new look as have my ideas of adventure. We're getting closer to meeting our little tiny human every day and I'm getting slightly more tired, and a whole lot more forgetful, which pretty much throws my planning heart all out of whack. 

I still take the time to dream about big adventures, but I'm also learning to embrace the smaller ones. 

And I'm talking, the really small ones. 

Like the adventures of my weekly trips to Target. I mean, have you even met the dollar section? 

I mean the kind of adventures that involve things like wandering through used bookstores to buy baby books, and of course a few for myself. 

The types of adventures like the ones Daniel and I have together when we try to assemble baby furniture from Ikea. 

These adventures that seem like such small, insignificant things but are actually the most grand of all. Because they're the ones that I'll look back on and remember the most. 

Last night I told Daniel that from here on out I feel like our life will fly by. I heard that's what happens when you have children, you watch them grow and suddenly before you know it so much time has passed that they're off creating their own lives. 

So I may look back on a big adventure with fond memories, and I'm sure I've got many more to come in this lifetime. 

But it's the small adventures that I've taken the time to make grand in their own way that will actually have the most impact on my life, because those are the ones that make up our day-to-day, and ultimately our lives. 

So I'm here to remind you to make this Monday a grand adventure, in whatever capacity that may mean to you.

Happy Monday, friends. 

Bumpdate: Week 28

Friday, February 17, 2017

Hello, third trimester.

How far along? 28 weeks, 2 days. Weight gain? Right around 25 pounds, and I still can't believe it. Maternity clothes? Definitely! I can't wait till California stops pretending that we have winter here so I can just wear dresses every day. Sleep? This is getting a little more difficult. Only because sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night to turn over and there's so much extra weight on my belly that it actually feels uncomfortable to turn. Best moment this week? Getting the baby shower invitations in the mail! They are the sweetest. Also getting the last few big items for the nursery.  Weird pregnancy moment? Just a lot more people giving me their two cents about this baby. I actually had a guy tell me this week that it's a good thing this is my first child, because thats really where my body is going to give the most. He said my first child will be smarter (IQ wise) than any other kids I may have, Sorry, future other children. Food cravings? I bought the weirdest groceries this week. Not even stuff that's strange for the normal person, just strange for myself. At Trader Joes last week I had to buy queso dip (which I usually do NOT like) and then at another store I had to buy Nesquick, even though I usually don't drink milk. Cravings are weird, guys. Movement? A lot! Yesterday I had dinner with a sweet friend and she was the first person outside of the family to feel her moving around in there. She was so excited. Gender? A sweet baby girl, Kensington Grace. What I'm looking forward to? Just about one month till the shower. And after my doctors appointment on Monday, I'll be starting to go in every two weeks until she gets here! That's going to make her arrival seem super quick.

12 weeks to go! Happy Friday, friends.

P.S. Daniel and I were on an episode of Let's Make a Deal with Wayne Brady. It is finally airing this Monday the 20th! Check it out on CBS!

Small Happy Things

Friday, February 10, 2017

The weathers been cold and rainy. There's dishes piled up in the sink, and laundry on the floor. I've got a to-do list a mile long and bills to pay. On top of that I'm carrying a two-pound baby on my five-foot-nothing frame which is giving me whatever normal body pains you would expect might come along with that (including having a rib come loose recently, which is very NOT fun).

Such is life.

Yet despite everything, I've never been happier.

This morning I woke up thinking about the smallest things. Little, tiny reminders of everything I'm so lucky to have to be happy about.

It's amazing what can happen when you take the time to write down these reminders for yourself. Especially if you're having a hard time or you're feeling unsure. Writing down the small happy things in your life helps to put into perspective the good. It makes them real and it encourages you to keep them in your mind, to remember them when you need them the most.

Here are a few of my small happy things this week.

Girl Scout cookie season. Because, duh. Give me all the thin mints.

Days off in the middle of the week. I had Tuesday off and even though it's made me question what day it is every other day this week, it was so nice to get an extra day to just lounge around.

Being almost complete with our nursery. Hands down my favorite room in our apartment.

New shows on Netflix. Netflix has been killing the game lately with new shows. This week we started The Magicians and The Killing (a Netflix original) and I've pretty much gotten nothing else done since.

Trader Joe's. I am so happy for Trader Joe's on weekends like the one I've got coming up. Daniel will be gone for his monthly National Guard weekend which pretty much means that I lose any and all motivation to cook actual meals for myself. Unfortunately for me, this little baby inside just won't accept that. Cue Trader Joe's and all of their ready made and delicious meals (and desserts, give me all the TJ desserts).

Teeny tiny baby wiggles. This baby moves SO MUCH! I love that she reacts to things like Daniel talking to her, and my mom kissing on my belly. She bumps around in there like she's training for the olympic gymnastics team and I wonder what's going on in there.

Having my parents live five minutes away from me. I am happy about this for so many reasons that I can't even begin to explain.

And so much more. What's been making you happy?

Nursery Reveal

Thursday, February 09, 2017

Assuming she arrives when expected, we are only 13 weeks away from meeting our little bundle of love. Practically since I found out that I was pregnant I started buying stuff for her room. 

Little by little it all came together and at this point I don't do much else besides sit in the nursery chair and imagine what it's going to be like once she gets here. 

For the most part we stuck to neutrals. Grey, white and hints of mint. I found those animal prints online before I ever even found out I was pregnant and it was basically the jumping off point of everything else that we bought once I decided on a color for the balloons. We made a banner with her name on it for the shower coming up in a couple of months and it went so perfectly with the rest of her decor that we hung it up in her room. 

I still wanted it to be sweet, but I wasn't interested in making it overly girly and I'm so happy with the way that it turned out. It also didn't cost very much. Most of the things that I bought were on some sort of sale, although I think I've made up the spending of anything I saved on all the baby clothes hidden away in her little white dresser. At this point we only need a few smaller (but still very important) things like a crib mattress and a changing table. I'm registering for both of those items so I have them all picked out and ready to go. 

Here are the links to the things that I have pictured (that I could find!) A few of the prices have changed since I purchased some of the items, but if you have any questions on any of it, let me know. 

CRIB: Camden 4-in-1 Convertible Crib in cool gray

STUFFED ANIMALS: Ikea (small selection online) 

WHITE WALL SHELF: Ikea lack shelf unit

MIRROR & HAMPER: HomeGoods (online link not available)


RUG: Amazon 5x8 faux sheepskin  

CHAIR: Amazon

DRESSER/CHANGING TABLE: Amazon in pure white 


INITIAL LETTERS: Michaels (we hand painted these white and gray)

ANIMAL FIGURINES: Michaels (not available online that I could find)

CURTAINS: Ikea Matilda 


FRAMES: Michaels 8 1/2 X 11 matted to 5 X 7 (I couldn't find the right size online to show you, but it's this brand)

POOH BEAR & MIKE WAZOWSKI: From Disneyland! 


MINT CUBES: Target (not available online)

We also have a few Disney puzzles that my dad did so we could frame them and put them up on the wall. Couldn't you just imagine curling up and cuddling with a little babe in this room? I know I can't wait to! 

Bumpdate: Week 26

Thursday, February 02, 2017

How far along? 26 weeks. Weight gain? A little over 20 pounds. Maternity clothes? Yes! Pretty much the only thing that fits me anymore. Sleep? I've been able to fall asleep so easily (and usually pretty early) but I'm also waking up first thing in the morning to a wiggly baby inside me and I can't ever get back to sleep. Best moment this week? Finalizing some details for my baby shower, ordering the last few "big" items for the nursery, and feeling baby have hiccups for the first time! Weird pregnancy moment? Having someone I work with tell me that it's cute that you can tell that I'm actually pregnant now and "not just fat"...her words...not mine. WHAT?! Food cravings? Eggo waffles (chocolate chip) and the other day I HAD to have a piece of carrot cake from a little bakery we were in. I don't even like carrots! Movement? All the time! Especially in the morning if Daniel talks to my belly, she can't stop moving. Gender? A sweet baby girl, Kensington Grace. What I'm looking forward to? Having our baby shower in two months and being just a little over three months away from holding our teeny tiny girl! She is already so spoiled loved by everyone, and I know that love is only going to continue to grow. 

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