Blog-tember Day 16: Self Care

Friday, September 16, 2016

Today's prompt: Friday, Sept. 16: How do you de-stress/take care of yourself?  

I will be the very first to admit that I am a people pleaser. I hate to make anyone upset, or to let anybody down. And more often then not this is to my own detriment. My body shows stress in very negative ways. I usually eat less (without realizing) and lose weight at an alarming rate that is so difficult to put back on. If I let myself get too stressed out then I slip up in a lot of other areas of my life, whether that be in my work, in writing, or in my relationships. 

After finding out I'm going to be responsible for a tiny human being a few weeks ago it really put into perspective for me the importance of self care and keeping my stress as low as possible. Here are a few things I'm doing to work on that. 

I'm only saying yes to things that I really want to do. The harder I push myself to do things that other people want me to do, the less happy I am and ultimately the more stressed I become. There's nothing wrong with saying no if it's not something good for you. 

I'm going to pamper myself every once in awhile. Pampering doesn't mean you have to go to the fanciest spa and spend all of your money. Pampering could mean painting your own nails and spending the day in your pajamas with your favorite tv show on in the background. Maybe it means taking a nap in the middle of the day. Whatever it means to you, taking the time to pamper yourself is a huge factor in feeling less stressed and overall feeling better about you. 

I'm going to do what my body is telling me to do. Our bodies are so perceptive to our needs. Listen to them. My body is not telling me that it wants to go run a marathon, but occasionally it might want to do some yoga. My body baby is telling me that it is hungry all the time so I'm not going to listen to everyone else's opinions on what I should and should not be eating right now, I'm just going to eat what I'm hungry for. My body is always going to need some extra sleep to keep functioning, and at least for now I'm going to fit in all the naps I can get. Just trust in and listen to your body, it will tell you what you need to do. 

I'm going to spend more time with the people I love. I don't know about you, but not much makes me feel better then a day with my mom. I can vent to her, I can sit and watch movies to her, we can talk or we can just be together and instantly I feel so much better about anything going on in my life at the time. 

I'm going to stop comparing myself to other women. Everyone is different and it's so easy, especially in a world where we share so much of ourselves with other's, to feel like you're not doing as well or succeeding as much as the women surrounding you. But that's completely a matter of how you measure your own success. Right now, I feel tired 90% of the day. So when I did the dishes yesterday I felt like I really succeeded at the day. Then I went through the Mcdonalds drive thru and I was back to square one. Sometimes, my writing doesn't seem as important as other people's. Maybe it doesn't get as much attention, but it makes me feel good to do it and I can easily be happy for the people who feel that same happiness in their own writing. Comparing yourself to others is a huge waste of energy that can only cause more stress. So remember that what you're doing is important. 

Stress is a sneaky thing. Sometimes you don't realize that you need to take a step back until it's too late to do so. Self care is so important and relatively easy if you recognize the signs that you need it. Do something for yourself at least once a day. Something small is okay. Just take care of yourself, and things in your life will fall into place with where they are supposed to be. 


  1. Congratulations on your sweet little one!! Glad you are taking such good care of yourself!

  2. These are great ideas! Take care!! :)

  3. I'm a people-pleaser as well, I always have been! These are definitely great tips! I hope you're feeling well! :)

  4. Um, first of all: CONGRATULATIONS on the baby human! That's so exciting (and scary- I just read about how you found out in Mexico! Wow!)!!
    Good for you for saying no and taking some me-time. I'm pretty bad about comparing myself to others, too =/ It's something I think a lot of us need to work on- we're all wonderful!


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