I Can't Believe

Thursday, September 22, 2016

I can't believe...that we got to see our new littlest love on the ultrasound screen this week, and even got to see a teeny tiny heart beat! I have so much love for our new baby already.

I can't believe...that today is the official first day of Fall. I've already been in the Fall mood since September started, but now no one can tell me it's too early.

I can't believe...that we've already gotten through an entire month of Daniel being away from me. With everything going on, it's flying by surprisingly quick and before I know it he'll be back home with me.

I can't believe...how wonderfully supportive everyone was when we announced Baby Peralta! I heard from people that I haven't spoken to in years, who were just so happy for us. This was the announcement we used to tell all of our sweet friends and family.

I can't believe...how much I LOVED the premier of This is Us. I won't give any spoilers, but if you just want to feel all the feelings then go watch it right now!

I can't believe...how few books I've read lately, my current count for this month is zero. And that makes me so sad. I'll blame that on the fact that whenever I'm finally home I'm usually so tired that I have enough energy to eat and go right to sleep and that's about all.

I can't believe...that in one short month it will be time to start repaying my student loans, on another note I can't believe how little of what I learned in college is actually relevant to anything in my life right now.

I can't believe...that my birthday is in less than a month. Where is this year going?

Happy first day of Fall, friends! 

Blog-tember Day 16: Self Care

Friday, September 16, 2016

Today's prompt: Friday, Sept. 16: How do you de-stress/take care of yourself?  

I will be the very first to admit that I am a people pleaser. I hate to make anyone upset, or to let anybody down. And more often then not this is to my own detriment. My body shows stress in very negative ways. I usually eat less (without realizing) and lose weight at an alarming rate that is so difficult to put back on. If I let myself get too stressed out then I slip up in a lot of other areas of my life, whether that be in my work, in writing, or in my relationships. 

After finding out I'm going to be responsible for a tiny human being a few weeks ago it really put into perspective for me the importance of self care and keeping my stress as low as possible. Here are a few things I'm doing to work on that. 

I'm only saying yes to things that I really want to do. The harder I push myself to do things that other people want me to do, the less happy I am and ultimately the more stressed I become. There's nothing wrong with saying no if it's not something good for you. 

I'm going to pamper myself every once in awhile. Pampering doesn't mean you have to go to the fanciest spa and spend all of your money. Pampering could mean painting your own nails and spending the day in your pajamas with your favorite tv show on in the background. Maybe it means taking a nap in the middle of the day. Whatever it means to you, taking the time to pamper yourself is a huge factor in feeling less stressed and overall feeling better about you. 

I'm going to do what my body is telling me to do. Our bodies are so perceptive to our needs. Listen to them. My body is not telling me that it wants to go run a marathon, but occasionally it might want to do some yoga. My body baby is telling me that it is hungry all the time so I'm not going to listen to everyone else's opinions on what I should and should not be eating right now, I'm just going to eat what I'm hungry for. My body is always going to need some extra sleep to keep functioning, and at least for now I'm going to fit in all the naps I can get. Just trust in and listen to your body, it will tell you what you need to do. 

I'm going to spend more time with the people I love. I don't know about you, but not much makes me feel better then a day with my mom. I can vent to her, I can sit and watch movies to her, we can talk or we can just be together and instantly I feel so much better about anything going on in my life at the time. 

I'm going to stop comparing myself to other women. Everyone is different and it's so easy, especially in a world where we share so much of ourselves with other's, to feel like you're not doing as well or succeeding as much as the women surrounding you. But that's completely a matter of how you measure your own success. Right now, I feel tired 90% of the day. So when I did the dishes yesterday I felt like I really succeeded at the day. Then I went through the Mcdonalds drive thru and I was back to square one. Sometimes, my writing doesn't seem as important as other people's. Maybe it doesn't get as much attention, but it makes me feel good to do it and I can easily be happy for the people who feel that same happiness in their own writing. Comparing yourself to others is a huge waste of energy that can only cause more stress. So remember that what you're doing is important. 

Stress is a sneaky thing. Sometimes you don't realize that you need to take a step back until it's too late to do so. Self care is so important and relatively easy if you recognize the signs that you need it. Do something for yourself at least once a day. Something small is okay. Just take care of yourself, and things in your life will fall into place with where they are supposed to be. 

More or Less in September

Thursday, September 15, 2016

More pumpkin spice everything... Less sweet tea

More books... Less binge watching

More cooking at home... Less eating out

More fall decorating... Less pool floaties lying around

More saving... Less spending on things we don't need

More picture taking

More adventuring

More loving

Less complaining

Less worrying

Less uncertainty

What are you striving for more or less of this month? 

8 Ways to Show Someone You Love Them

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

After sharing yesterday's post I feel like I can finally get back to some normality around here.

Every time I sat down to write anything over the past few weeks, nothing seemed as important. Nothing seemed as special or as exciting as the news that we would soon be becoming a family of three.

It was like my mind was blocked and until I got to share that, then nothing else could be shared.

But now were back. And I'm feeling so much better. Tired, all the time, but better.

With Daniel gone, especially at a time like this, he has been working overtime to make sure that I feel one hundred percent supported and loved. I can imagine with as far away as he is, this can't be the easiest of tasks. I was talking to a friend the other day who lives with her boyfriend, yet they've hit this point where she doesn't feel the love she felt in the beginning. They've hit a wall, so to speak. And it got me realizing how lucky I am to have someone who, even from a distance, proves he loves me every single day.

I think it's important to show love in all of our relationships. To get past those walls, and to constantly show each other how much we mean to one another, because in a world like today it's never been truer that we just don't know how long we all have here together. It's vital that we don't take one another for granted, and it's so important that we make it known how we feel about a person while we've got the opportunity. We have to show our love, openly and loudly, and not assume that the people in our life know how we feel.

So here's a little list of some things you can do to show the people in your life that you love them.

1. Leave them little notes, or send a quick message to them during the day. Every night before bed, or morning before I wake up, Daniel sends me a text message when he's away. Just so I know that I'm the last and first thing he thinks about when he's starting and ending his day.

2. Surprise them with something. Do they love flowers? Send some, or pick up a couple outside before you come in. Is food the way to their heart? Then cook them a special dinner, or grab them taco bell. Whatever will get the point across.

3. Don't stop putting in the effort. I'm not saying that they need to come home every day to you in full make-up, with the house clean and dinner ready. Hello, this is not the 50's. But every once in awhile, do something a little different, maybe that means painting your nails. Daniel notices every time mine are a different color and I love that.

4. Dance with them. This one I am the most shy about, mostly because Daniel likes me to dance with him in all of the very public places that make me very nervous to do that in. If you're in your living room, or kitchen, just turn on some music and ask them to dance. If anything you'll both giggle your way through the whole thing and it could be the most romantic thing ever.

5. Hold hands. Be proud of the person you're with, be silly with them. Skip around and just be happy that you're together.

6. Compromise. If they unwillingly watched your favorite type of movie last week, then watch their favorite type of movie this week. Suggest activities that you both might actually enjoy, that way one person doesn't feel forced into whatever it is that you're doing. And if that ends up being the case, then just agree to switch it up for the next time.

7. Do something around the house that they usually hate to have to do. For me, that would be the dishes and the laundry. For Daniel, probably the same. Just help out if you've got the extra time that way you guys can spend that time together once they get home.

8. Listen to them without distractions. I'm talking no phones, computers, televisions. Nothing that will hold your attention away from them. Spend at least a little time like this with each other every day, and you will probably learn a lot about them.

What other ways do you try to show love in your life?

The One Where My Life Changed in Mexico

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

A couple of weeks ago I finally found time for a long overdue vacation. I packed my bags a week after Daniel left and I flew first to Florida, and then to Cancun, Mexico.

If you stop by this blog every once in awhile, you may know that I haven't done any kind of vacation recap. I haven't shared any stories about my beach adventures, and all of the amazing food I ate.

I haven't recap'd any of it, and that's because things didn't exactly turn out the way I had planned.

So here's how it went.

On Friday I arrived in Florida to beautiful hot, sunny weather. It gets hot here in California, but nothing compares to that humidity and I was not prepared.

I stayed in Florida until Tuesday. I spent most of my time laying in the pool, eating entirely too much seafood and exploring. We visited St. Augustine and it was the cutest place. 

On Tuesday morning I packed up my bags and headed off to Cancun to meet Daniel's grandparents. They have a timeshare that they use every year and they were so sweet to invite me to come stay with them. 

It was exactly the getaway that I wanted and I couldn't wait to swim in the ocean and drink pretty drinks by the pool. 

And that's exactly what I did for the first day. I ordered myself a daiquiri, brought my kindle down to the water and lounged all day. We ended the night with some karaoke (watching, not participating) and fell asleep to the sounds of the ocean. 

The next day we had plans to go paddle boarding. We slept in, had a big breakfast and packed our bag to head to another resort for the day. 

But something felt different. 

One major red flag for me that morning was that I was supposed to have started my period the day before. Now, to most people that wouldn't seem weird, being just one day late. But my body is annoyingly on time when it comes to that time of the month and so I decided to ask Daniels grandparents if they would mind stopping at a pharmacy on our way to pick up a pregnancy test. 

Again, this may seem weird that I would jump to that conclusion right away. But what you probably don't know is that about a month ago Daniel and I decided that I would stop taking my birth control and we would start trying to have a baby. It was a big and scary and wonderful decision that we happily made together. So especially after that, any sign of not having my period was something that I noticed right away. 

We picked up the pregnancy test and headed to the resort. I figured if anything, I would take it and see a negative result and then continue to enjoy my vacation. 

But almost immediately, the test came back positive. And i'll tell you that even if it's something you're trying for, seeing a plus sign on that pregnancy test is still one of the scariest, most overwhelming things in the entire world. 

So naturally I ran outside, grabbed the first taxi I could find and went back to the pharmacy for another test. Which came back positive again.

Somehow, Daniel had perfect timing and called me right in the middle of my freak out as I was trying not to pass out in a random resort in Mexico. Our call went a little something like this:

Me: "Babe, I'm leaving Mexico. I'm going home."
Him: "Why?"
Me: "Guess. What could be happening right now that would make me leave my vacation?"
Him: "Uhm, I don't know...is there a storm coming?"
Me: "Well...I guess you could say that."

Then there were some tears, and some laughs and some omg we can't believe this is even happening. 

And then I called my mommy. Because if you know anything about me, you know that my mom is my best friend. And doing what any rational person with good news would do, I called her while I was crying like a baby and made her so nervous that something bad happened only to surprise her with the biggest news ever. 

In that moment, since I couldn't be with my husband I needed the next best thing. And, again being completely rational and all there at the time not at all handling things well, I jumped on the next plane out of Mexico and flew home after being stuck in the Cancun airport where there is no wifi for six whole hours. Which felt like slow torture after finding out life altering news while you're in another country. 

I am relatively early along in this pregnancy and part of me was hesitant to share the news here. Because god forbid I put this out into the universe and something bad happens. But I feel like I am about to burst every time I talk to someone. I want to yell, "I'm having a baby!" and then laugh, cry, and tell that person how afraid I am of what it is that is making me so happy. 

And why wouldn't I want baby to have all of the positive thoughts from friends across the world? Our new little love absolutely deserves that. 

I've only known about this big (tiny) news for a short time in what will be a lifetime of big things happening. 

I've never been so thankful, or scared, or happy or overwhelmed by any one adventure that I was about to begin. Although skydiving came pretty close, and sort of felt the same as seeing that plus sign on the pregnancy test. 

I went to Mexico with the intention of coming back rested and refreshed and instead I came back feeling like my life had been totally and completely flipped upside down. 

I'm linking up with Emily because I am beyond grateful for the start of this next wonderful chapter of our lives. 

Baby Peralta, we can't wait to meet you.  

Vacation is Over and I'm Feeling Thankful

Tuesday, September 06, 2016

Getting back into the swing of blogging after vacation can be a little difficult. I spent so much of the time on my trip trying to stay away from all things social media, although snap chat may have seen a picture or two, that jumping right back into sharing didn't come as easily as I had anticipated.

We're slowly easing into the Fall season, aka the start of the most wonderful time of the year, and  I feel like I have so much to be thankful for lately. So I thought I'd share some of those things with you today.

I'm thankful for...the early return of the pumpkin spice latte and all of the other pumpkin goodness gracing Starbucks shelves this morning.

I'm thankful for...the fact that the weather held up on almost my entire vacation. When it did rain it usually waited until night time and was clear by morning.

I'm thankful for...Daniel finding out that he will be home about a month and a half earlier than he had anticipated. Having a husband in another state is really just the least fun thing ever.

I'm thankful for...this new beautiful ring that Daniel surprised me with after I left from Etsy. It's handcrafted and dainty and just the sweetest ring I could have ever hoped for. I got mine in rose gold.

I'm thankful for...all of the family time I've gotten to spend in the last week. I saw my grandparents, Daniel's grandparents and fit in the rest of the time sitting on my moms couch and soaking up all the time I could get.

I'm thankful for...weather that has finally started to cool down (until it hits 90 tomorrow). You better believe I will be bundling up in sweaters and boots at every chance I get.

This season is off to a good start. I'm so thankful for so much. What are you thankful for today?

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