To The Girl I Thought I'd Be Friends With Forever

Thursday, April 14, 2016


Dear you,

As I get closer to another major life event, I think back on how I've gotten here. I think about the years that have passed and the people that have made an impact on where I am today, and I always think of you. 

You were more than a friend, we welcomed you into the family. My parents loved you, and when you no longer came around you didn't just hurt me, but them as well. With no warning you no longer wanted us to be your family and I'd be lying if I said that I didn't go over the situation in my head trying to figure out what we did wrong. 

What I remember most were our nights spent laughing and planning. We planned for our futures, and for all of the experiences that we couldn't wait to have together. And three years ago when I got married I couldn't believe that we were at a place in our friendship where I couldn't come to you in excitement because I knew you wouldn't understand, and how could I expect you to? You'd never even met the love of my life, the person I now consider my best friend. 

It's been nearly six years since the days when we were inseparable. I'm not mad anymore about how everything turned out but I'm still saddened by the possibility of the life long friendship we could have had. 

I want to thank you. Out of the hurt, I grew to be a stronger person. I don't take any friendship for granted anymore and I'm so thankful for the people I do have in my life. I don't believe you ended our friendship because you were trying to hurt me. I think that if anything you saw before I did that we were both headed in different directions and rather than embrace the new people we were becoming, you took the easy route and went your own way. 

I believe that people come into your life for a reason and you were one of my greatest lessons thus far. I'm at a place where I can look back at our friendship and be grateful for the time that we did have together and all of the support you provided me during some of my most influential years. 

As time goes by I'll look back at pictures of the two of us and remember. When my future little ones point you out in a photo, I'll laugh and share happy memories of the adventures we once had. 

Thank you for being such an influential person in my life in both good ways and bad. I hope that today and every day you're happy, and that you knofw that in fleeting moments I'll always remember the friendship we once had. 

Sincerely, 
Me 

"I've learned that who doesn't look for you, doesn't miss you and who doesn't miss you doesn't care for you...that destiny determines who enters your life but you decide who stays...that the truth hurts only once and a lie every time you remember it. There are three things in life that leave and never return: words, time and opportunities...therefore, value whoever values you and don't treat as a priority whoever treats you as an option." 

If you could write an open letter to an old friend, what would you say? 

5 comments

  1. I have a few friends that this has happened with, it's so hard to go through.

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  2. I love this and I totally know how you feel. We all have those people, and that's just life.

    Emma | Seeking the South

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  3. This post reminds me of the saying "People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime." One isn't necessarily better than the other but it is up to us to determine which category a friend fits. It can be tough!

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  4. I have a friend I could write an almost identical letter to. It's so hard when a best friend turns into a stranger.

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  5. I thought before that once you become friends, you will be forever friends too. Boy, how very wrong I was. There are people who come in our lives for a reason and for a season only. We can't force them to stay when the season has changed or when they have fulfilled their purpose so to speak. This topic is really close to my heart.

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