Movies to Get You in the Fall Spirit

Wednesday, September 30, 2015


Fall has been a very common theme around here on this blog lately, and I hope you aren't sick of it yet because it's only the end of September. That leaves a solid two more months to post about all the wonders that come with Fall. Last week I posted about TV shows that you should binge-watch during the Fall, but I thought I'd take it one step further by giving you some movie ideas as well, just in case you're an over-achiever like me and watch each show from the list in one day. Here are some of the movies that help put me in the Fall spirit. 


Hocus Pocus: Duh, because it's about Halloween. And it has Bette Midler, and it's usually about $10.00 at Target right around this time. So if you haven't picked up your copy yet, get to it. 


When Harry Met Sally: Really this one is good at any time. Meg Ryan, Billy Crystal and New York in the Fall. Talk about the perfect movie to curl up with a pumpkin drink and your favorite blanket. 


Remember The Titans: Fall and Football go hand in hand so any Football movie should really help get you in that Fall mood, trust me. 


Casper: Another Halloween-ish one, and worth watching. This always makes it on my Halloween movie marathon list because it's got the perfect spooky Victorian house and Fall atmosphere to help welcome in the season. 


Good Will Hunting: Matt Damon, Robin Williams, Boston, Fall. Just say yes. 


Practical Magic: One of my favorite Fall/Halloween movies. Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman play sisters & witches with cursed love lives. It's cheesy in the best ways and all around a great movie. 

What are some of your favorite Fall movies?

A Birthday Wishlist

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Today I am two weeks away from my twenty-third birthday. Unfortunately for me, my birthday is going to be filled with midterms because it's right before our mid-semester break! I have four in one day which is a very miserable way to have to spend a birthday. I love having my birthday in October though, because my wish list usually gets filled with all the good Fall things I'm liking at the time. This list is no different, here is what I'm hoping for this year. 



Fall Bucket List

Monday, September 28, 2015


As if there weren't enough of these floating around the blogosphere, I couldn't help but to throw in my two cents on how I think Fall should be spent. Especially since we're stuck in some kind of hundred-degree eternal Summer here in California, and I've been doing everything possible to counteract it. Not to mention midterms are right around the corner and I start my new job next week, it seems inevitable that my Fall is going to flash before my eyes, and I'm just not going to let them happen. Here's what I'll be doing this Fall.

Wine tasting
Pumpking carving
Apple cider drinking
Pumpkin baking 
Passing out Halloween candy
Fall crafting
Playing in the rain
Halloween movie marathons
Hosting a friendsgiving
Visiting a haunted house

What's on your bucket list this Fall?

Thankful Thursday: Week Three

Thursday, September 24, 2015


This Thursday I'm thankful for a new job. This is the first semester that I've had any time to focus on something outside of school, and with the holidays coming up I decided to make that thing a new job. As much as I appreciate Daniel giving me the opportunity to focus on my school work, I hate the idea of not contributing somewhat to our family income, especially when Fall and Winter start to roll around because we hit every family birthday and present buying holiday all at once. I went in for an interview a few days ago and I will be going in for an orientation on Monday, and I couldn't be more thankful and excited for the opportunity to work. I'm sure there will be stressful days because its a retail job (hello, black Friday), but i'll also get the opportunity to be working with people which is something I love. Wish me luck! 

What are you thankful for today? 


First Day of Fall: Write it Out // Breath it In

Wednesday, September 23, 2015


the sweetest time is coming, 
can you feel it in the air?
scarves are wrapped up tightly,
hats are covering your hair.
pumpkin drinks, and smells, and colors 
can be found in every store.
and no matter how much you get, 
it still leaves you wanting more.

the summer's on it's way out,
and fall is moving in.
with all the magic in the air,
don't forget to breath it in. 

Happy first day of Fall!

100th Post and a Giveaway!

Tuesday, September 22, 2015





Do you ever come across something in a store and think wow, I need that, and then you catch yourself and think again, hmm...maybe *insert name here* might need that. That's what happened the other day when I walked into one of my favorite little local boutiques, Soto. As far as I know, Soto is only here in California but if you know otherwise please correct me. Soto has the cutest styles, they're constantly updating their merchandise to keep up with the changing seasons and I find it impossible to leave without buying something every time I go in. Last week was no different. I walked in and immediately fell in love with so many items, including this dainty little leaf bracelet. I thought I needed it right away but I knew that my 100th post was coming up on my blog and I thought it would be the perfect time to host my first giveaway, so here we are!

In honor of today being my 100th post I am giving away one Soto Lifestyle Leaf Bracelet. The bracelet is adjustable, and perfectly dainty. It so cute and simple and all around the perfect bracelet for a little transition into the Fall season. 

This giveaway will run from September 22nd - September 27th. The Winner will be announced no later then Monday September 28th. 


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Put Your Past Behind You

Monday, September 21, 2015


We all have those friends. The ones who become part of the family and make you wonder how you were ever not friends. They spend all their time with you, start calling your parents mom and dad and do everything with you that a sibling probably would. You might even fight a little bit, but never seriously enough that it could break up what you have. But what happens when that friend decides you're no longer important enough to be in their lives. They slowly start inching you out until suddenly its like you never knew each other and you start to question all those years that you were so close. 

Has this ever happened to you? It has to me. In high school I always had two best friends that I could count on like family. Until suddenly one of them didn't want that anymore and with no reasonable explanation (still to this day) she just dropped me out of her life. I blamed myself, but when she did the same to our other friend I knew it must have been something going on specifically with her. In many ways I felt that it wasn't fair, she had already made such an impact on my parents and my own siblings. We all celebrated countless birthdays and milestones together, and even offered to let her move in with us when things weren't going right in her own family. She wasn't just leaving me behind, she was leaving them behind also. 

I hadn't thought about her much in awhile, until my mom came across some old pictures the other day. She only sent me the ones with me and my other friend, who are still as close as ever. But she worried that if she sent me the ones with al three of us I would be hurt, or upset. And she was probably right. Five years after high school and thinking about that friend still makes me mad sometimes. At this point I've still never gotten an explanation as to why we become so unimportant to her, and how after all that time she was okay with simply letting us go from her life. This isn't to say that I didn't try, because I did make the effort to understand what happened, and was pushed from that as well. 

But it's been five years, and at this point I should be moved on from it right? They say that you should forgive people as quickly as possible And as far as I've come from how mad I was at her in the beginning I would say I've definitely made progress towards that. But I also think it's important to accept the fact that some people are going to hurt you in a way that makes it much, much harder to simply forgive and move on. And that's okay. 

These days I feel more sad for her than anything else, but I'm also grateful towards her because I feel like this situation has helped me grow so much. At first I felt like I had to be extra careful in choosing my friends, like maybe they would all turn around and do the same thing. But after awhile I realized that she made that decision for reasons we never have and probably never will understand, but that doesn't mean anyone else would do the same. To this day I still have my best friend (the third girl in the story) and countless other people who I can count on. And I feel lucky. I've learned from her and from the things in my past, and I think that some people in your life are really there just to teach you something. 

So if you're ever in this situation, my advice to you is don't shut down from others. Learn what you can, and accept people for who they are. It's okay to feel hurt, but also feel grateful because things in your past happen for a reason, and if they teach you something important about your life and yourself, than thats the most important thing of all. 

Shows You Need to Binge Watch This Fall

Friday, September 18, 2015



Gilmore Girls: Featuring the best mother mother-daughter duo to ever grace television, Gilmore girls follows the lives of Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. It's full of witty comments and has the ability to make you laugh and cry all in the same episode. If you've somehow missed out on this show up to this point, you need to go watch it immediately. 


One Tree Hill: Lucas and Nathan Scott are brothers, but the only thing they share is a father. When they both join the Tree Hill basketball team, all of their family drama erupts and makes for a very interesting show. Think, "Friday Night Lights" with basketball instead of football. 


Grey's Anatomy: Dreamy doctors, lots of drama, and (mostly) made up extreme medical cases. This show has everything you've ever needed in life for hours of binge-watching excitement. 


Medium: This was one of the first shows I ever watched from beginning to end, and i've watched it all the way through twice more since then. It follows the family of Alison Dubois, a psychic who works for the District Attorney's office. She uses her psychic ability to help solve cases as she's often visited from people who have passed on. Her daughter's also slowly develop similar abilities throughout the 7 seasons. This show mixes a little comedy, a little family love and a lot of drama to form the perfect show. 


Supernatural: (Super attractive) brothers Dean and Sam are monster hunters. From ghosts, to vampires, to demons, the boys track down different types of monsters and fight together to make the world a better place, all the while being hunted by other things trying to take them down. I'll be honest about this one, the first few seasons really had me hooked, but after awhile it did get a little too dramatic for me. 


Once Upon A Time: If you have any interest at all in Fairy Tales then this series is for you. A woman is drawn to a town where fairy tale characters have come to life, the only problem is that they've all forgotten who they are. As their stories start to unravel, so does a bigger story behind the town itself. Each season brings new fairy tale characters and new interesting story lines. The new season starts in a couple weeks so you have plenty of time to binge-watch and catch up!


Friday Night Lights: This is a season I have just started but I'm already hooked. Like I mentioned above it's basically One Tree Hill but with Football. It's the perfect Fall show to remind you of all your high school football games and of course, all the high school drama that goes along with it.

What shows are you binge watching this Fall? Share any suggestions in the comments below!

Thankful Thursday: Week Two

Thursday, September 17, 2015


This Thursday I'm thankful for my handsome husband. Even from 2,000 miles away he still manages to make me smile every day. There is never a question in my mind about whether or not he's the one I'm supposed to be with. He works hard to create a life for us that we can both be proud of, and no matter what i'll always be his biggest fan. Things could really cheesy around here but I don't want to gross anyone out too much today. But to wrap things up, here's a few pictures (featuring all my different hair colors) just so all of you understand who I get to spend the rest of my life with, I'm one lucky girl. 





Here's to you, my love, I'm thankful to have you as a best friend. 

Write It Out: Back To You

Wednesday, September 16, 2015


sometimes when i hear that song,
it brings me back to you.
and even though it's been so long,
i know you miss me too.
we've come so far from those two people,
that we used to be.
but here and now i think of you and i can almost see
the world we could have, would have had,
if there was you and me.

when the music plays,
i drift to another time.
one that makes me think,
of when i could call you mine.
but there's a reason that the here and now,
is where we're supposed to be.
and everything i learned from you,
i carry here with me.
so when you hear that song,
i hope you remember too.
because maybe in some far off world,
i'm meant to be with you.

this poem was inspired by the lives of my favorite fictional characters, Noah and Allie, from The Notebook. 

Oh Dear, Abbey: New Name, New Design, Same Me

Tuesday, September 15, 2015


Six months of blogging over here at Sunshine State of Mind has taught me so much. In such a short time I already feel like I have started to change and really develop the type of blogger that I want to be. With that of course comes the desire to change up my look. As much as I loved the bright, summery colors that Sunshine State of Mind was all about, I also really love softer more simplistic designs. That's where This Girl Design came in. After looking at some of my favorite blogger designs, I realized that there's one thing a lot of them have in common. Many of them use a simple, beautiful design and then evolve it into something that fits their personal needs. After looking through the templates on This Girl Design, I chose the "Cherish the Day" template. The soft gray and bright whites remind me of staying under the covers all day with a cup of hot tea and all the blankets you could ever need. And it comes with free installation which is perfect for someone like me who has little to no knowledge of the way all the coding works around here. 

With a new design also comes a new name. As much as Sunshine State of Mind fit me, there was still something that didn't feel entirely right. When I first started my blog I was in such a rush to just get myself out there that I didn't really put in the time to think of a name that reflected me. Over the past six months as I've started learning the ropes a little more, I've often caught myself in those "oh dear" moments. You know, the ones where you do something a little silly and think, "oh dear, how did I manage that?" and from that "Oh Dear, Abbey" was born. We all have those moments in life, maybe some of us more then others. But I'm here to embrace those "oh dear" moments because those are the moments that I truly learn the most from. 

I'll still be posting the same content and I hope you'll continue to follow along as I change and develop my style even more. I truly appreciate all of the support up to this point. 


Making Things Easier, Not Harder

Monday, September 14, 2015


I am all of three weeks into the Fall semester and I'm already feeling the overwhelming effects of letting myself get behind in my school work. Even now I should be working on an Art History assignment instead of writing this blog post, but I know that once I share some awesome tips with you guys then obviously i'll follow my own advice and get straight to work, right? It's so easy to get behind in college. Right now I'm taking seven classes and six of those are all in the same day, twice a week. By the time I get home I'd rather curl up with a blanket and some Netflix and fall right to sleep instead of beginning the pile of reading that I know is waiting not so patiently for me when I stop procrastinating. It's inevitable that these times happen during a semester and I'm sure that by the time I get myself all caught up again i'll be complaining about all the new stuff that I'm behind on. For now, i'll use these tips to help get myself back on track. 

one: Lists, lists, lists! I just can't stress the importance of making lists to help keep yourself on track. I usually write out everything I need to do twice before I ever get started. I make quick notes that jot down everything at once, and then I re-write them in order of importance (and usually by due date) so I know when things have to get done. 

two: In my opinion, just as important as keeping a list is where you keep it. Go out to Target, Staples, or any of the wonderful online shops you like and find a planner that you love. Try out a few different ones at first to find one that matches best with your lifestyle. Right now I use the Erin Condren Life Planner and it is a life saver. I've tried others as well but so far this is my favorite because it separates the days into different sections for me. I write down everything, seriously everything, that I want to try and accomplish during the day and it helps keep me somewhat accountable for my work. 

three: Once you've figured out what you need to do the hard part is making the time to do it. We live in a world full of distractions and the hardest thing in the world is to give those distractions up for some time to do the stuff we really need to get done. To accommodate this, just set aside a small amount of time each day where you turn off your phone, tv, etc. Take yourself to the library or starbucks, grab a pumpkin spice latte and just get stuff done! Start with a reasonable amount of time at first, maybe a half hour, and slowly work your way up to an hour or two every day to get work done.

four: If time schedules don't work for you try planning to get one thing done every day. Whether it's an assignment, or a handful of errands you have to run, if you can set aside the time for one item a day then you'll be knocking stuff off your to-do list in no time! 

five: Keep trying new things. I'll be honest, some of my best work is done when I wait till the last minute to do it. I also know that I cannot spend three hours studying for any subject even if I set aside the time for it. You have to understand what works best for your style and know that it will get easier as you go. 

If you're like me and let things pile up till you overwhelm yourself, try to remember that it does get better and you will get everything done that you need to. Keep a positive attitude about your work and you'll have more confidence in your ability to produce better work, faster. Don't give up on prioritizing and eventually it will come easy to you! 

BLOG-TEMBER DAY 11: A Night In

Friday, September 11, 2015

Friday, September 11: It's a Friday night and you decide to stay in. What do you do?


Today's Blog-Tember post came at a perfect time because it just so happens that tonight is Friday and tonight I have planned a night in all to myself. My family is visiting friends in Minnesota till Sunday and since I had school and got stuck at home, I decided to treat myself with all the things I need for a relaxing night to myself.

 Here's what a Friday night in looks like for me: 
Greys Anatomy marathon, because no matter how many times Shonda Rhimes breaks my heart I just keep going back. 
Trader Joes mussels in white wine sauce, and a bottle of Charles Shaw Pinot Grigio, also from Trader Joes. 
At least three okay, four, big soft blankets to cuddle up with and a Bath and Body Works flannel candle to make my room all cozy. 
Ray Bradbury's, Dandelion Wine, the wonderful and beautiful book that I'm currently in the middle of and will probably be finished with by the time today is over. If you haven't read it, I strongly suggest it. 


I'll also do a little pampering. Right now our fridge is filled with Lush face masks. My little sister works at the mall and they're constantly bringing her samples of their products. Right now we have a BB Seaweed mask which relaxes and cleanses the skin, a mask called Don't Look At Me which refreshes the skin with lemon and rice, a Blueberry mask with chamomile to soothe the skin, and a Cupcake mask with cocoa powder and spearmint that helps with oily skin. I'll definitely be ending my Friday with one of these masks, but I don't know how I'll choose! 

All of these things together are going to make the most perfect Friday night in that I could ever hope for, the only thing I'm missing of course is my husband there to inform me of the inaccuracy of Grey's and to balance out my wine in-take with a beer or two for himself. 

What does your Friday night in look like? 


Thankful Thursday: Week One

Thursday, September 10, 2015


I know I should be thankful at all times of the year, and truly I am. But there's something about the beginning of the Autumn through to the end of the year that makes me reflect a little longer on the things that I am so grateful for in my life. I've decided that as a way of reflection I would use each Thursday, there's 12 by the way, leading up to Thanksgiving to share something with you all that I'm thankful for.

This Thursday I'm thankful for my supportive family. Recently Daniel and I have been trying to keep our heads on straight with getting everything all planned out for when he comes home. Although we've hit a few bumpy spots, my family has still shown us both unwavering support when it comes to getting our little life all figured out. We've decided to stay with them temporarily in order to give ourselves a chance to get on our feet. I'm sure a lot of you out there reading this would wonder why any married couple would want to move back in with their parents, and to that I'd say, you've never met mine. It's difficult for anyone just starting out to live in Los Angeles and I'm thankful that my parents are willing to handle a bulk of the costs in order for us to have the chance to get settled. I'm also thankful that I can be confident in the fact that I will always have a roof over my head, especially in a time when many people cannot say the same.

What are you thankful for this Thursday?

Write it Out: This Life

Wednesday, September 09, 2015

it seems we're always waiting, 
for our lives to begin. 
but darling, can't you see?
we've already jumped in. 
this day-to-day we're living,
is what it's all about.
and all of life's small moments,
I couldn't live without.

so sit with me and think,
of all we're grateful for. 
for life is so much sweeter, 
when you open up the door. 

BLOG-TEMBER DAY 8: Favorite Season

Tuesday, September 08, 2015

Tuesday, September 8: Tell us about your favorite season. Why is it your favorite and what does it say about you?



Without a doubt my favorite season has always been and will always be Fall. Fall is an excuse to stay under the covers a few minutes longer, or to wake up early and take a cup of coffee with you on a walk around your leaf-covered neighborhood. Everything begs to be wrapped up in pretty scarves and oversized sweaters or blankets. There's just something so cozy and wonderfully magical about the whole thing. Not to mention all the pumpkin. I've already started my pumpkin baking, and candle buying and today is the release of the pumpkin spice latte so if you need me you'll find me at the nearest Starbucks. To me, Fall is a new beginning, more so even than the first of the year. If I could only live in the Fall season for the rest of my life then I'd be pretty content in doing just that. There's no denying that I am happiest during this time of year. 

What is your favorite season? 


BLOG-TEMBER DAY 4: Passion

Friday, September 04, 2015

Friday, September 4: What are you passionate about?


My Marriage// I am first and foremost passionate about my marriage. I am passionate about my husband and his bravery and constant love and support. I am passionate about making our marriage thrive despite our long distance situation. I am passionate about being the type of wife and best friend that he needs and making our lives together one of laughter, love and happiness.

Experiencing The World// I am passionate about experiencing the world for all it has to offer. After graduation I am planning two trips abroad, the first to Paris and London and then second to Ireland. I am passionate about learning from other cultures and lifestyles as well as teaching others about my own.

I am currently looking for fundraising help. If you're interested in helping me get the word out there about my upcoming travels, or have the ability to donate, you can visit my campaign here. Any little bit helps and I appreciate the support! 

My Family// I love my family and their constant ability to show me unwavering support in life. I am passionate about them, as they are about me. I truly wouldn't be anywhere in this world without all of them there to talk with me, challenge me, and love me.

Reading// "The only thing that you absolutely have to know is the location of the library" because, duh, that's where the books are. And books are wonderful magical things that take you on adventures to places you've never been before. I am passionate about books and reading and I make as much time for them as possible, although I do wish I could make even more.

Learning// Sometimes it's easier to complain about something then it is to think about all the reasons you have to be grateful for it. For me, that thing is school. I am passionate about learning new things. So passionate that other parts of my life have been placed on hold until I can finish out my degree. For the past five years I have consistently put in hours of work that will eventually all culminate into one piece of paper. I have been fortunate enough to learn from some very wonderful people, and I hope that I never lose my passion for learning even after I'm finished with school.

What are you passionate about?


BLOG-TEMBER DAY 3: Collage Your Blog

Thursday, September 03, 2015

Thursday, September 3: Create a collage or inspiration/mood board that describes your blog. 

My blog is nearing it's six month-iversary. That's probably not a real thing, but I'm pretty proud of it all the same. Today's Blog-Tember challenge asked that we create an inspiration board that describes our blog, but after six months of blogging somewhat consistently, I'm already itching to do a redesign that better fits the blogger I'm hoping to become. The biggest problem that I have is that I am so indecisive and my design tastes range all over the place. Here are some mood boards I've been playing with lately...



Obviously those two are very different! Do you prefer the darker, bolder colors, or the lighter, softer feel? I love them all!


What inspires you?

Staying Motivated This Semester

Wednesday, September 02, 2015


When it comes to school work my motivation is usually the first thing to go. I convince myself that there are about a thousand other things I could be doing besides reading that giant complete works of Shakespeare book sitting on my dresser. I could be reading a book I might actually like, for example. Or binge watching a show on Netflix that might (but probably won't) enrich my life in some way. I could even spend time making a list, such as this, of other things I could be doing besides homework and believe me it would go on and on. But unfortunately as a college student that just doesn't cut it. We have no choice but to read the assigned textbooks for the classes with teachers who think their lectures are all more important than the next. I wish I could say that the longer you're in school the easier it gets to get that motivation going, but that really isn't always the case. Here are some things that I do to help me stay motivated when it comes to school work.

1:: Make the most out of your situation. I try to remember that it's not going to last forever, and that I'm the one paying to be there. It's not like high school where you're forced to go and you don't get to take specific classes that interest you. I chose my own schedule for every semester, I'm paying for each credit and what I get from the class is entirely up to me. If I choose not to do the work, it doesn't affect anyone else and it's important to remember that in college especially you get out what you put in, so make your time (and money) worth while by paying attention and doing your work.

2:: Find your favorite work place. I try to find comfortable places to get my work done. My new favorite is our local library. Something feels so right to me when I have a nice, quiet place to bring all my books. I find a table away from everyone else, bring some headphones and give myself a time limit to finish a few important things. This helps me stay on track and actually get some stuff done.

3:: Set some goals. I like to set goals for myself for the day, week, month and sometimes year. Just hold yourself accountable! If this type of system works for you then just set a couple realistic goals that you can reach. For example each day plan to read a chapter in all of your school books that you have assignments in. The more goals you complete the more you'll want to continue setting them.

4:: Surround yourself with people who have similar goals as you. If you find friends who also want to work on staying motivated on their school work then you'll be more likely to do just that! Work together as a group and hold each other responsible for helping to keep the group on track.

When everything else fails I like to just give into my lack of motivation and go watch Legally Blonde. Usually by the end of the movie I'm convinced that if Elle Woods can go to Harvard Law then I can get some school work done.

Happy Wednesday!

Sweet September: Goals

Tuesday, September 01, 2015


September is here and we are quickly approaching my favorite time of the year. August usually starts the big birthday cycle in my family and we have people to celebrate through December. Add that to the general change in atmosphere that comes with the beginning of Fall and I'm a happy camper. Here are some things I hope to accomplish this month.

One// Raise or save $200.00 dollars towards my graduation trip fund. I mentioned this in my post yesterday but if you're interested in donating or helping me get the word out there to save money up for my London and Paris trip you can find my travel campaign here.  

Two// Make school work a priority. Since this is technically my senior year, senioritis is honestly so real. But I'm in the final stretch and I know I want to finish strong. What do you do to stay motivated about work?

Three// Focus on the positivity in my marriage. We're back to long distance again and although it's hard, we're only three months away from Daniel coming home for good. I want to try and make these last three months mean something for us because we have so much to be positive about. 

Four// Read three new books. This one will become increasingly difficult because I already have so much reading to do for school, but reading for fun is so much better and I'm going to try to read at least three books this month.

Five// Clean out my closet and sell or donate the clothes I don't wear anymore. Recently I've been using the Poshmark site a lot to sell some of my old clothes. Now that I'm back home I realize how many more clothes I have that I don't need. My closet needs an end of Summer clean out!

What are your goals for this month? Happy September! 

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