Thursday, September 22, 2016

I Can't Believe

I can't believe...that we got to see our new littlest love on the ultrasound screen this week, and even got to see a teeny tiny heart beat! I have so much love for our new baby already.

I can't believe...that today is the official first day of Fall. I've already been in the Fall mood since September started, but now no one can tell me it's too early.

I can't believe...that we've already gotten through an entire month of Daniel being away from me. With everything going on, it's flying by surprisingly quick and before I know it he'll be back home with me.

I can't believe...how wonderfully supportive everyone was when we announced Baby Peralta! I heard from people that I haven't spoken to in years, who were just so happy for us. This was the announcement we used to tell all of our sweet friends and family.

I can't believe...how much I LOVED the premier of This is Us. I won't give any spoilers, but if you just want to feel all the feelings then go watch it right now!

I can't believe...how few books I've read lately, my current count for this month is zero. And that makes me so sad. I'll blame that on the fact that whenever I'm finally home I'm usually so tired that I have enough energy to eat and go right to sleep and that's about all.

I can't believe...that in one short month it will be time to start repaying my student loans, on another note I can't believe how little of what I learned in college is actually relevant to anything in my life right now.

I can't believe...that my birthday is in less than a month. Where is this year going?

Happy first day of Fall, friends! 

Friday, September 16, 2016

Blog-tember Day 16: Self Care

Today's prompt: Friday, Sept. 16: How do you de-stress/take care of yourself?  

I will be the very first to admit that I am a people pleaser. I hate to make anyone upset, or to let anybody down. And more often then not this is to my own detriment. My body shows stress in very negative ways. I usually eat less (without realizing) and lose weight at an alarming rate that is so difficult to put back on. If I let myself get too stressed out then I slip up in a lot of other areas of my life, whether that be in my work, in writing, or in my relationships. 

After finding out I'm going to be responsible for a tiny human being a few weeks ago it really put into perspective for me the importance of self care and keeping my stress as low as possible. Here are a few things I'm doing to work on that. 

I'm only saying yes to things that I really want to do. The harder I push myself to do things that other people want me to do, the less happy I am and ultimately the more stressed I become. There's nothing wrong with saying no if it's not something good for you. 

I'm going to pamper myself every once in awhile. Pampering doesn't mean you have to go to the fanciest spa and spend all of your money. Pampering could mean painting your own nails and spending the day in your pajamas with your favorite tv show on in the background. Maybe it means taking a nap in the middle of the day. Whatever it means to you, taking the time to pamper yourself is a huge factor in feeling less stressed and overall feeling better about you. 

I'm going to do what my body is telling me to do. Our bodies are so perceptive to our needs. Listen to them. My body is not telling me that it wants to go run a marathon, but occasionally it might want to do some yoga. My body baby is telling me that it is hungry all the time so I'm not going to listen to everyone else's opinions on what I should and should not be eating right now, I'm just going to eat what I'm hungry for. My body is always going to need some extra sleep to keep functioning, and at least for now I'm going to fit in all the naps I can get. Just trust in and listen to your body, it will tell you what you need to do. 

I'm going to spend more time with the people I love. I don't know about you, but not much makes me feel better then a day with my mom. I can vent to her, I can sit and watch movies to her, we can talk or we can just be together and instantly I feel so much better about anything going on in my life at the time. 

I'm going to stop comparing myself to other women. Everyone is different and it's so easy, especially in a world where we share so much of ourselves with other's, to feel like you're not doing as well or succeeding as much as the women surrounding you. But that's completely a matter of how you measure your own success. Right now, I feel tired 90% of the day. So when I did the dishes yesterday I felt like I really succeeded at the day. Then I went through the Mcdonalds drive thru and I was back to square one. Sometimes, my writing doesn't seem as important as other people's. Maybe it doesn't get as much attention, but it makes me feel good to do it and I can easily be happy for the people who feel that same happiness in their own writing. Comparing yourself to others is a huge waste of energy that can only cause more stress. So remember that what you're doing is important. 

Stress is a sneaky thing. Sometimes you don't realize that you need to take a step back until it's too late to do so. Self care is so important and relatively easy if you recognize the signs that you need it. Do something for yourself at least once a day. Something small is okay. Just take care of yourself, and things in your life will fall into place with where they are supposed to be. 

Thursday, September 15, 2016

More or Less in September

More pumpkin spice everything... Less sweet tea

More books... Less binge watching

More cooking at home... Less eating out

More fall decorating... Less pool floaties lying around

More saving... Less spending on things we don't need

More picture taking

More adventuring

More loving

Less complaining

Less worrying

Less uncertainty

What are you striving for more or less of this month?